Ask Allison: My husband always takes the other person’s side – does he hate me?

Allison Keating answers your queries about life and relationships

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Question: My husband has a terrible habit of arguing the counterpoint to anything I say. For example, I will tell a story relating to a shop assistant being rude to me and he will instantly give reasons as to why the shop assistant may have been right, or some other excuse that invalidates my point of view. It is constant, and it happens for minor and major things.

I recently had a very stressful experience with a close friend being very hurtful towards me and any conversation with my husband was him explaining and backing up the friends point of view and criticising mine. It also didn’t change how he reacted to this friend — he was chatting away to them as if nothing had happened.